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Courage and Resilience or What I Learned from Reading "Option B"

Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Drawing from a recent personal tragedy, Sheryl Sandberg chronicles the impact of the devastating setback to her personal and professional life, and how, with the accessible support of her family, friends, coworkers, professional help, and other resources readily available to a person of her stature (and by extension her children), she was able able to start on the road of recovery, open herself up to the possibilities of an Option B, and even manage to grow in character. Option B is a metaphor, referring to the alternative in the face of the sudden, unexpected unavailability of Option A. Lending credence to her sobering learning is the expert contribution of noted psychologist, Wharton professor, and best-selling author, Adam Grant, who is the co-author.

This book intersperses the author's own healing journey with stories of others' tragedies and recoveries. Those of us w…
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